Mutha Magazine Article Allison [repack] Direct

That was the beginning of the unbecoming.

From a stay-at-home dad: “My wife works 80 hours a week. I do everything. And I mean everything. I have never seen anyone name this. You named it.” mutha magazine article allison

Allison looked up, her face wet and raw. “No,” she whispered. “I just need to stop being the one who knows where everything is.” That was the beginning of the unbecoming

She is writing a book now. Not a parenting guide. A memoir about the year she stopped performing. She calls it The Unbecoming. The working tagline is: “What you lose when you stop being everything to everyone is not a tragedy. It’s a beginning.” And I mean everything

That sentence became the title of Allison’s recovery.

For a decade, Allison had lived in a state of low-grade fight-or-flight. Her cortisol levels, she later learned from a functional medicine doctor, were comparable to someone being chased by a predator for eleven years. Her thyroid was sluggish. Her digestion had essentially given up. She had developed a nervous habit of clenching her jaw so tightly that she’d cracked two molars.